Disclaimer: "If a marriage is dead, give it a decent burial".
Ronke Shonde.
The name that spurred a thousand and one think pieces on Facebook.
This month's poster child for domestic violence.
And another one bites the dust...
I mean what I say when I say that the highest form of psychological torture is staying married to a person you have to endure.
I shudder each time to think of the number of Nigerian women who 'exist' in abusive marriages simply because they are afraid of what society would say if they spoke out or left.
And boy! Society really does have plenty to say.
Your pastor tells you to pray and submit to your abusive husband. Afterall the church does not believe in divorce (or separation)
Your mother tells you not to do things to "trigger" his anger.
Facebook relationship pundits tell you to go and watch War Room.
The police don't have your back, the law isn't on your side either.
In a society where marriage is a status symbol and divorce is frowned upon, what you are is helpless/stuck/afraid.
I'm no authority on the subject of domestic abuse but I'd say this one thing, if you are in an abusive relationship(emotional, psychological or physical), my dear sister pack your load and find the nearest exit.
Save yourself. A little selfishness never hurt any body.
If that man maims or worse kills you, Facebook will rant about it for max one week and it would be on to the next sensational headline..
They would hold one minute silence in your honor, and even then some people will use fifteen seconds out of that one minute to cough and clear their throat.
The kids you were desperately holding onto your marriage for are going to be left in the care of relatives or God forbid your good for nothing husband(and his new wife)
You would become another statistic. Another cautionary tale.
End. Of. Rant.
Ronke Shonde.
The name that spurred a thousand and one think pieces on Facebook.
This month's poster child for domestic violence.
And another one bites the dust...
I mean what I say when I say that the highest form of psychological torture is staying married to a person you have to endure.
I shudder each time to think of the number of Nigerian women who 'exist' in abusive marriages simply because they are afraid of what society would say if they spoke out or left.
And boy! Society really does have plenty to say.
Your pastor tells you to pray and submit to your abusive husband. Afterall the church does not believe in divorce (or separation)
Your mother tells you not to do things to "trigger" his anger.
Facebook relationship pundits tell you to go and watch War Room.
The police don't have your back, the law isn't on your side either.
In a society where marriage is a status symbol and divorce is frowned upon, what you are is helpless/stuck/afraid.
I'm no authority on the subject of domestic abuse but I'd say this one thing, if you are in an abusive relationship(emotional, psychological or physical), my dear sister pack your load and find the nearest exit.
Save yourself. A little selfishness never hurt any body.
If that man maims or worse kills you, Facebook will rant about it for max one week and it would be on to the next sensational headline..
They would hold one minute silence in your honor, and even then some people will use fifteen seconds out of that one minute to cough and clear their throat.
The kids you were desperately holding onto your marriage for are going to be left in the care of relatives or God forbid your good for nothing husband(and his new wife)
You would become another statistic. Another cautionary tale.
End. Of. Rant.
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