"We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller.
We say to girls: You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten the man. If you are the breadwinner in your relationship with a man, pretend that you are not, especially in public, otherwise you will emasculate him." -Chimamanda Adichie
Do men (yes I am generalizing) feel threatened by successful/powerful women?
These 21st century men claim that they like a girl who is smart, intellectual and can hold an intelligent conversation because according to them they don't want to marry a liability.
But ask him if he would be comfortable if his wife ends up making more money than he does or is career driven?
Till this day I've not gotten the response "It doesn't matter"
I've heard all the excuses men have to give about why it is not "acceptable" for a woman to earn more money than her man, but perhaps the most ludicrous of them all is that, successful women are proud and feel entitled.
And with good reason I dare say!
"A really strong man wants a woman who is equal to him, that is the truth of it now. A weak man wants someone that is docile and a servant to him — it is a real sign of insecurity in a man to want a brainless trophy wife. Wives can be beautiful, intelligent and have careers and opinions just as strong as their partners." - Dr. Juan
So men, I ask you again, what is it that you guys really want, a doormat, baby making factory, trophy wife or a successful woman?
We say to girls: You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten the man. If you are the breadwinner in your relationship with a man, pretend that you are not, especially in public, otherwise you will emasculate him." -Chimamanda Adichie
Do men (yes I am generalizing) feel threatened by successful/powerful women?
These 21st century men claim that they like a girl who is smart, intellectual and can hold an intelligent conversation because according to them they don't want to marry a liability.
But ask him if he would be comfortable if his wife ends up making more money than he does or is career driven?
Till this day I've not gotten the response "It doesn't matter"
I've heard all the excuses men have to give about why it is not "acceptable" for a woman to earn more money than her man, but perhaps the most ludicrous of them all is that, successful women are proud and feel entitled.
And with good reason I dare say!
"A really strong man wants a woman who is equal to him, that is the truth of it now. A weak man wants someone that is docile and a servant to him — it is a real sign of insecurity in a man to want a brainless trophy wife. Wives can be beautiful, intelligent and have careers and opinions just as strong as their partners." - Dr. Juan
So men, I ask you again, what is it that you guys really want, a doormat, baby making factory, trophy wife or a successful woman?
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