LIE TO ME

Ria: You drugged her so she could lie?

Cal Ligthman: Never let the facts get in the way of the truth.

     SO1E02 Lie To Me "Moral Waiver"

LIES...We hate 'em but we tell 'em..and with good reason ,or so we think.

But sometimes the truth hurt..and no one likes getting hurt...or do they?

We lie to protect the ones we love..but can you really shield someone from he truth?

We lie to gain acceptance..or to hide who we really are.

Cal Lightman: Nobody can tell the whole truth, it's subjective, and passes through our own filters.
Judge Quinn: How about you promise to be honest to the best of your ability?
Cal Lightman: Now you're talking!

    S02E13 Lie To Me "The Whole Truth"

White lies? Half truth?

A lie may take care of the present, but it has no future

Momma used to say, when you tell one lie, you have to tell 99 lies to cover up that one lie.

Always tell the truth. That way you don't have to remember what you said.--Mark Twain

Sad thing is we lie until we actually start to believe the lie

Sometimes even getting people to lie for us

Eventually we get caught up in a web of lies and its difficult to come untangled.

Lightman: You know some people it's easier to tell when they stop lying more than when they start.
Russo: How can you tell when I stop lying?
Lightman: You shut your mouth.
   S02E20 Lie To Me "Exposed"

So how can you tell when a person is lying?

Facial expressions? body mannerisms? sweating? heightened pulse? stuttering?

Really, does telling one lie make you a liar?

TRUTH

Perhaps you could try it sometime, it really does set you free

Its bitter but it makes you feel better

Hearing the truth might make you mad

But thats a story for another day.

I guess what am trying to say here really is :

Please don't lie to me, unless you're absolutely sure I'll never find out the truth. 

Ashleigh Brilliant

TWENTY......and counting

Its been approximately 5days 19hours and 2minutes since my transition. Panic mode. This can only mean that my days of rebelling, girl crushes,and acne problems are behind me OK,well except for the acne part (big sigh).

Just when I was getting used to the melodrama.

So, am twenty...and counting. Counting my blessings. Counting my days. Counting my gray hairs..uhmm....back to counting my blessings again. :-) 

There is a famous saying that with great power comes great responsibility.And boy1 do I have a ton  of responsibilities lying ahead, cant say much for the power part though I hope that figures into the picture- eventually.Speaking of responsibilities, one does come into mind - Marriage ;-P.  Yhup! its almost about that time innit?

So just the other day  my uncle mentioned to me, in less than subtle terms, that from next year they would be accepting dowry. Whose, was best left to my imagination. And thats what got me thinking. Somewhere down the road, society would expect I find myself the "American dream" : a handsome husband ,two-and-half kids and a white  picket fence. Trick question: Why do people get married?

Case scenario: X meets Y. They fall in love. Get married. Have kids. How does the rest work out? Is it really because of the vows, or their kids perhaps, or maybe they simply cant live without each other? Getting married is one thing, Staying married (and being happy doing so) is an entirely different ball game.So why do some marriages work out and others dont? Does it mean they didnt really love each other? I think not. Now I dont mean to be a cynic here, but dont even get me started on the divorce rates.

"I, ____, take you, ____, to be my (husband/wife). I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life. I, ____, take you, ____, for my lawful (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part."

I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad; First, there is the promise

Promise; An engagement by one person to another, either in words or in writing, but properly not under seal, for the performance or nonperformance of some particular thing. The word promise is used to denote the mere engagement of a person, without regard to the consideration for it, or the corresponding duty of the party to whom it is made.

  To be true to you; 

True: unswervingly faithful and loyal

..... In good times and in bad.

....In sickness and in health

I will LOVE and HONOR you ALL the days of my life.

Love: 

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

It is not rude, it is not self‑seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. I Corinthians 13: 4- 8 (NIV)

Honor: That which rightfully attracts esteem, respect, or consideration; self-respect; dignity; courage; fidelity; especially, excellence of character; high moral worth; virtue; nobleness; specif., in men, integrity; uprightness; trustworthness; in women, purity; chastity.

"To have and to hold, or better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part."

Until death do us part; Climax or anti climax? Go figure.

Trick question: Why do people stay married?

So the main idea is to find the one you are madly in love with and cant live without, propose to her (or accept his proposal as the case may be) get married and settle down. Whew! So what happens next, after the honeymoon is over and you have bills to pay, decisions to make, kids to procreate,and a life to build together?  Oh! did I mention the in-laws you have to put up with? 

Okey dokey! I'm going to go a lil Dr Phil here and tell you what I think the deal is on this marriage issue. The only pronoun involved is OUR. For this marriage to work, its OUR responsibility.In sickness, its OUR sickness. In wealth, heck its OUR wealth! lol. Bottom line, you exist for each other. See the thing is, there is a lot of commitment involved here, make that a lifetime of commitment. 

Pardon my ramblings but I haven't quite figured this out yet. So please I would like to hear what your thoughts are on the issue..Why do people get married and What makes a marriage work? Looking forward to your criticism and responses.

Shout out to all the beautiful people born in March! I am still accepting post humuos birthday gifts by the way! Cheers!

"I didn't marry you because you were perfect. I didn't even

marry you because I loved you. I married you because you

gave me a promise. That promise made up for your faults.

And the promise I gave you made up for mine. Two imperfect

people got married and it was the promise that made the marriage.

And when our children were growing up, it wasn't a house that

protected them; and it wasn't our love that protected them - it was that

promise."

Thornton Wilder, The Skin of Our Teeth

Fish Out Of Water

This feels weird....

I must have hit the Backspace key over a dozen times already.There was a time when it was just me,my pen,paper and my thoughts......well that was before social networking came along.So now am switching between Windows, Skypeing a friend,listening to music, and staring at the blinking cursor.

Oh well! here goes nothing,i have to get started somehow.

In less than 3 months it would be illegal to call me a teenager.Now i dunno if that makes me happy or sad. But am pretty sure that somehow i have lost touch with myself in those years. Sad innit? Case in study- my writing. Now, there is something I used to love doing back then when I wasn't reading a book/newspaper,daydreaming or talking to myself :) I had hopes of being a published writer someday.Those were the days, and for the life of me I cant figure out why I stopped writing, wasn't it what I "loved" doing? I guess love makes you do crazy things.like forgetting what/who you loved(d) in the first place and Why???

Hmmm...speaking of love. Seems like everyone has formed an opinion on the issue. Yeah..yeah,am a sucker for Happily ever afters, but lets face it....this is REAL LIFE (like we used to say back in kindergarten).Love isn't perfect and am learning it the hard way. In my opinion, you actually have to be in love to really knows what it feels like.Every other rule follows thereafter. Enough said.

OK, now am getting used to the idea of writing from a laptop..who would have imagined.? Anyways, I take  this as a step in the right direction and hopefully in time I would rediscover myself.

In the meantime, am going to put my headphones on full volume and let the music take over me. Finally, in the words of a wise man;

 It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for it to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad. 

                                                                                                       C.S Lewis